My best friend is single and in her mid thirties. She has been ready to settle down for a few years now but hasn’t been able to find the right person. In fact, she can’t find a sane man out there.
All of the men she meets seem to be nice and normal at first. They always let her down. Large majorities want to get into her pants and will stay around being Mr. Wonderful until she does sleep with them. Once she starts to let her walls down they end up backing away.
The keep wanting to come back for more sex but they don’t want the relationship. Is it that the men who are single in this age group are either jaded or just all jerks? Where are the decent men?
I just don’t get it. She is smart, attractive, has a good job, well educated, caring, responsible, funny, owns her home and car, and is just an all around great person. Is she too smart for the guys? Is she too independent for most men? Is her humor to dry and dark for many?
She does have high standards and I’m sure that has limited her options. But, should she settle for just any person when she lives by those same standards. No, she wouldn’t be happy with just a warm body.
She needs a man that can match her mentally. One who can relate to her emotional struggles. One who sets his own high standards and lives by them. Someone who can take care of himself, goes to work everyday, and who wants to come home every night.
She is most attracted to black men who are well educated; but she doesn’t limit herself to just one race. Education is a big deal to her. Even that she is willing to have some leniency on if the individual is intelligent and has used his intelligence to better himself.
She can’t stand to see someone who is smart but refuses to use it to his advantage. Someone who is content to work a ten dollar an hour job and just get by in life. She can’t stand the man who has three phone numbers just so he can keep his gaggle of woman straight. She can’t stand the man who wants to consume her every waking moment. She has lived alone for a long time and has to have some of that personal space just as she needs air to breathe.
Are those things so wrong? Are there really just not any men left that meet those standards? I just can’t believe it. There has to be a guy out there that would fit her perfectly. But where the hell is he? If you see him send him this way and I’ll pass him on to her (of course, after I run a battery of test on him).
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You can definitely feel like that sometimes. In this day and age, men are so convoluted they think that having a dick and a job turns them into Mr. Darcy. Even though not one of them seems to know who Mr. Darcy actually is.
They expect the following: sex on the first night, but only then, and only with them They can't possibly have a "slut". She must by a nympho, but only around him and maybe a few girlfriends of hers. They must have an attraction to THEIR penis only and cook good. They must enjoy blowjobs and be content with a few minutes of reciprocation. They have to be okay when the guy looks at other women (hey, he's only human), and maybe strays occasionally. But they must never EVER think about another man. They must do the laundry, cook the food, make the beds, and be a maid who also happens to have three nice holes for him and his worshipable cock to go into whenever he should want. And in exchange, you get a big-ass shiny ring. And the amazingness that is beer-filled buddies over to watch the game and screaming at her to make him a sammich, even though it's in the third quarter and the Colts are down by three on the 30 yeard line and about to get first down. I mean come on, a woman the likes FOOTBALL? That's grounds for instant divorce. She must cater to his moods, rub his back when it's hurting (he's had a hard day at work filing, all you've done is loaf around and make the bed, cook the food, do the laundry, get some beers, and get the stains out of his underwear. HE NEEDS SOME HIM TIME!), and generally shower him with love. And blowjobs. When he's sick, you feel sympathy and do what he says. When you're sick, you can get over it. Oh, and they must have a college degree. But they must be stupider than you (a woman? Smarter than a MAN? That's rich) with your super-cool GED. They must stop being so fucking emotional all the time. Honey, I KNOW your mother just died but please, I'm trying to watch Springer and your crying is really starting to interupt that.
But I've found not all guys are like that. (Granted, most of the ones who aren't have boyfriends already) The ones who aren't are usually taken. Yet we never stop looking. We get hurt so many times by assholes that we put up barriers. So when the good guy comes around, he sees you as cold and distant. And still is okay with it. Then he starts to think it's something he did. When you're just trying to protect yourself.
There's no magic bullet. Timing must be perfect, and God, Buddha, Allah, fate, destiny, luck, or whatever you believe in must be just right to find it for real. It'll happen eventually. I truly believe that about the world. Maybe it won't be THE "Prince Charming". But it will be YOUR "Prince Charming". He'll be intelligent, sweet, giving, awesome in bed, not the least bit pushy and loves the intelligent, the bitchy, the nympho, the sobbing, the...well, the you. The everything that makes you you. Sometimes it can't come soon enough. But it'll come. And who knows. Maybe it's sooner than she thinks.
Haha! Who is this friend you speak of?
I think I might know just the guy for you...
I'll get back to you.
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