My best friend is single and in her mid thirties. She has been ready to settle down for a few years now but hasn’t been able to find the right person. In fact, she can’t find a sane man out there.
All of the men she meets seem to be nice and normal at first. They always let her down. Large majorities want to get into her pants and will stay around being Mr. Wonderful until she does sleep with them. Once she starts to let her walls down they end up backing away.
The keep wanting to come back for more sex but they don’t want the relationship. Is it that the men who are single in this age group are either jaded or just all jerks? Where are the decent men?
I just don’t get it. She is smart, attractive, has a good job, well educated, caring, responsible, funny, owns her home and car, and is just an all around great person. Is she too smart for the guys? Is she too independent for most men? Is her humor to dry and dark for many?
She does have high standards and I’m sure that has limited her options. But, should she settle for just any person when she lives by those same standards. No, she wouldn’t be happy with just a warm body.
She needs a man that can match her mentally. One who can relate to her emotional struggles. One who sets his own high standards and lives by them. Someone who can take care of himself, goes to work everyday, and who wants to come home every night.
She is most attracted to black men who are well educated; but she doesn’t limit herself to just one race. Education is a big deal to her. Even that she is willing to have some leniency on if the individual is intelligent and has used his intelligence to better himself.
She can’t stand to see someone who is smart but refuses to use it to his advantage. Someone who is content to work a ten dollar an hour job and just get by in life. She can’t stand the man who has three phone numbers just so he can keep his gaggle of woman straight. She can’t stand the man who wants to consume her every waking moment. She has lived alone for a long time and has to have some of that personal space just as she needs air to breathe.
Are those things so wrong? Are there really just not any men left that meet those standards? I just can’t believe it. There has to be a guy out there that would fit her perfectly. But where the hell is he? If you see him send him this way and I’ll pass him on to her (of course, after I run a battery of test on him).
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