Don’t you just hate it when a family member screws you over…

     My sister wanted to move up to the mid-west with us. Her home was being foreclosed on and she was going to have to move anyway. She knew that she would have to give up one of her two dogs. She knew she would have to give up her privacy. She knew living with our young son would be loud and annoying at times. However, she would be able to save a lot of money each month and be able to pay off some of her debt.
     Just before we moved she decided she wanted her alcoholic son to move with us when he got out of rehab. My husband wasn’t very happy with the idea but willing to give it a go if the boy (21yr old) would tame his ways. Meaning, no police, no arrest, no loud obnoxious drunk behaviors.
     We had already found a place for my family to live. The house had a finished basement and third bedroom that my sister and nephew could use. We just wanted help with utilities and groceries. When moving day arrived and we reached the new location the house we were to be renting wasn’t vacated. The owner had only gotten about half of the household items moved. Here we were with a huge U-Haul, kid, 2 dogs and my sister and her caravan on the way too. The owner ended up saying that we just wouldn’t be able to move in and gave us our deposits and first month’s rent back. We had less than 24 hours before my sister would arrive in town with all of her belongings.
     We rushed and made some frantic phone calls trying to find a rental that would accommodate all five of us and three dogs. We were lucky to find a 4b/3b that was move in ready the next day. Called my sister and let her know about the place but that it would be $400 a month over our budget. My sister said that she would pay the difference.
     Well, that was four months ago and she has only paid us $500 once. There has been a lot of tension in the home due to my nephew being a lazy drunk. He just got a job two weeks ago after my husband threatened to kick him out if he didn’t get one. He had actually told myself and my husband that he didn’t see why he needed to get a job because he wouldn’t make much money anyway. Meanwhile, his mother is working two jobs. He leaves lights on when he leaves rooms, never turns off any of the TV’s, and takes two 45 min. showers a day leaving no hot water for any of us. Never locks the house doors and drinks and smokes all the time. Not horrible things but annoying when he is living free off of us.
     Things just weren’t working out. Then weekend before last I was woke up at 3:30 a.m. by the door bell and the dogs going crazy. It was the police. They had received a disturbance call about my nephew sitting out in his SUV playing his stereo to loud. My nephew was drunk as a skunk. He had told the police that he had just came back from a gas station buying cigarettes. The kid was lucky that they didn’t arrest him.
     Once the police left I tried to get him to go to bed. Once I went back to bed I heard him up and found him trying to go outside with his car keys in hand. I refused and got his mom. He said he just wanted to move his SUV and grab his cigarettes. I told him to stay inside that the police had just left and he didn’t need them coming back, that his mom and I would take care of moving it.
     He wouldn’t listen to me and followed me outside getting louder and louder. I finally stopped and turned around to him and said in my most calm, low, stern voice, “Go back inside I’m becoming mad.” He then stomped up to me so he was only 6 inches away and started cursing at me telling me that he was the one getting pissed off. Needless to say, the next day my husband told him that he had until the end of the month to move out.
     My sister and I had a fight last week over it. She made the mistake of saying that we were just throwing him out in the cold street. She tried to compare my precocious 6 year old to her 21 year old. I ended up loosing my temper. I had been holding back for months. I had my own 2 yr old temper tantrum. When someone else is paying for your living expenses you do own some respect and can’t expect to do whatever you like.
     I apologized less than a hour later for my bad outburst. Things have been very tense and we have been just holding our breath for our nephew to move out. He never once apologized for his behavior.

     This evening my sister told me that she has found a townhouse and will be moving this Friday. We still have 8 months left on our lease. She hasn’t been able to even give us $400 dollars a month but now she is going to be paying $900 a month for her a her son a place. I, of course, feel used. I feel like she just bent me over and screwed me without the aid of any lubes.
My husband isn’t surprised. He told me over a week ago that she would end up moving out with her son at the end of the month. I kept telling him no that she wouldn’t do that to us. He was right and I was wrong (damn him, he usually is right). He is actually happy about it.
      He thinks we will save money in the long run because we won’t be spending so much on utilities and groceries. We also won’t have to worry about her dog that has bitten me over five times now and that poops and pees in the house. We won’t have to worry about keeping our son silent all of the time. The house will be free of all the built up tension and we know the front door will stay locked.
     I can see his point and I know in a few weeks I’ll be happy about it too. However, for the moment I’m mad and my feelings are hurt. ***My husband and I are placing bets on how long it will be before she isn’t able to keep up with the rent and the police are called out on my nephew. He gives her three months before they are evicted. I say 6 months.   Evil for me to be thinking that way...Dang Demon...