Our child has sexdar (uncanny ability to know when mom and dad are about to have sex and then finds them in order to put a stop to their affections). If our child is awake we can not have sex. We never, NEVER, have baby sitters. My mate is very protective and doesn’t trust anyone.
That leaves us to rarely being able to enjoy sex. We talk about it all the time and tell each other what we wish we were doing to each other. We make big plans for late night or early morning hook-ups; however, we usually don’t follow through. It’s always too late at night for him or to early in the morning for me.
The other day I was telling my mate that I’d love for him to just take me one morning. He laughed and said, “Do you have any idea what you are like early in the mornings? You grumble and roll over.” I came back at him that he needs to just take me. As in, roll me over, pull off my panties, and take it! Be a strong fierce alpha male and fuck me.
Two days later I woke up to my foot being messed with. It woke me up enough to know that I had a full bladder and needed to get up. I rolled over and as I was getting out of bed saw my mate crawling up the bed from the bottom. I thought, “Yay, sex…let me go pee quickly so I can have some fun.”
When I came back into the bedroom he was on his side of the bed with his pants pulled down taking care of himself. I got back into bed and rolled over with my arm on his chest. He just kept on pleasing himself. I ended up falling asleep in 5.6 seconds.
That evening he commented that he had tried to have sex with me that morning. That he had tried to take me just like I had said I wanted. Okay, let us take a break and reflect on this…
1. Don’t wake someone up by messing with their feet. The person sleeping thinks something is crawling on their toes and it freaks them out. 2. If you wake someone up regardless of the time of night or morning expect them to need to take a bathroom break. Unless, of course, you are into golden showers, which I am not. 3. When a woman tells you to take her she wants you to take her. That means, you the man, must act as the aggressor. You take her underwear off, flip her into whatever position you want and then fuck her. Fuck her hard.
I really felt like I was having to explain the whole concept to a student. I might just have to put together a PowerPoint presentation. Maybe with the use of visual aids I can get the concept across.
Note to all males… Women do not like meek men in the bedroom. We don’t want cave men either so don’t go crazy. We all want a little soft now and then but we also want to be fucked. If you aren’t willing to put forth some effort we, the ladies, would just rather sleep.
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The problem is, and I'm not suggesting you are un-sexual as you're obviously not, but it's not much fun for guys to be the aggressor if the girls doesn't actively play the part of the submissive. Submissive doesn't mean passive, it's as animated a role as being dom. Maybe you were groggy and tired and not putting much into it, and yeah, he probably could have gone for it anyway, but the point is it might not have been much fun for him - so it's not necessarily that he failed to be alpha, nobody, alpha or otherwise, enjoys sex with a passive woman - and you might have been unknowingly passive due to morning tiredness!
That said, he could have orchestrated it all for your benefit, and doing that for each other is an important thing, but that's just one explanation!
I speak from some frustration that my girlfriend, as a mild submissive (and me as a mild dom) seems to confuse submissiveness with passiveness. I cannot explain how boring it is to be the only one actively playing a role in the sex. I think some women do hide behind "oh I'm submissive, I like you to take charge" as an excuse to not make much of an effort (although again, that's obviously not you!)
I can see your point. The only time I'm not activly taking part is when my mate wants to slid it in and get himself off without any physical or mental foreplay. If you know that your partner is only in it for himself then I'm just thinking about how I'd rather be doing something else that won't require me having to clean up his sperm when he's done. Point is, I'm sick of being board in the bedroom. I'm sick of not getting off. I'm sick of being the one who is the agressor most of the time.
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